There’s always a purpose for everything that God guides us through, even if you wish you were in a fulfilling relationship right now and find yourself alone. In these moments, God has a significant reason for your solitude. Let’s explore ten reasons why God often leads His people through seasons of being alone.
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To Teach You What Your Heart Truly Needs
In Psalm 73:21-23, it is written, “When my soul was embittered and I was pierced within, I was senseless and ignorant; I was like a beast before you.” However, in Psalm 73:23-26, it also states, “Yet I am always with you; you hold me by my right hand. You guide me with your counsel, and afterward you will take me into glory. Whom have I in heaven but you? And earth has nothing I desire besides you. My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.”
God designed us to thrive in healthy relationships with others. However, if we are not aligned with God first, none of our relationships will truly be satisfying and wholesome. Through periods of solitude, God teaches us that our primary need is Him.
To Teach You that You Are Never Abandoned If You Remain with God
When we are not secure in God first, we are constantly afraid of being abandoned by others. Human love, unlike God’s perfect love, is prone to failure. By spending time alone with God, you will develop inner confidence in the faithfulness of the Lord. In Psalm 73:27-28, it is written, “Those who are far from you will perish; you destroy all who are unfaithful to you. But as for me, it is good to be near God. I have made the Sovereign LORD my refuge; I will tell of all your deeds.”
The only truly safe place is in the presence of God.
To Teach You How to Pray
While group prayer and intercession within the church are powerful, prayer at its core is meant to be a deeply personal connection between you and God. Without a season of solitude with the Lord, it is difficult to learn how to truly pray and commune with Jesus. As Jesus taught in Matthew 6:5-6:
When you pray, do not be like the hypocrites, for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and on the street corners to be seen by others. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward in full. But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.
To Give You Time to Reflect on Relationship Mistakes
Without periods of reflection, we are bound to repeat our mistakes and failures over and over again. As expressed in Psalm 139:23-24, “Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting!”
To Help You Lose Your Fear of Man and Find Your Fear of God
Without seasons of solitude and intensified focus on God, we will always be fearful of what others think of us. However, when we discover a healthy, reverential fear of God, all other fears fade away. Jesus teaches us in Luke 12:4-7:
I tell you, my friends, do not be afraid of those who kill the body and after that can do no more. But I will show you whom you should fear: Fear him who, after your body has been killed, has authority to throw you into hell. Yes, I tell you, fear him. Are not five sparrows sold for two pennies? Yet not one of them is forgotten by God. Indeed, the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows.
To Help You Trust Solely in God
While relationships, community, and friendships are blessings, the Bible never instructs us to place our trust in people. We are solely commanded to trust in God. As Psalm 108:12-13 states, “Give us aid against the enemy, for human help is worthless. With God, we will gain the victory, and he will trample down our enemies.”
To Help You Recognize the Value of Relationships
Once your heart is restored in the Lord through a season of solitude, God reawakens your desire for healthy relationships with others. Consider when God said to Adam, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him” (Genesis 2:18).
Have you ever wondered why God didn’t create Eve right from the beginning? Perhaps God allowed Adam to experience loneliness first so that he would truly appreciate Eve once she was created.
To Help You Minister to Others
Loneliness exists in this broken world due to fractured relationships caused by sin. As Christians, God calls us to represent Him, inviting people out of isolation and into the family of God. During seasons of isolation, God often equips us to better serve those in similar situations. As described in 2 Corinthians 1:3-4, “Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.”
To Prepare the Soil for Love to Grow
Those who rush from one relationship to another are often ill-prepared to thrive in a godly partnership. Ironically, one of the best ways to cultivate a strong relationship foundation is through a period of solitude.
Before their wedding, in the Song of Solomon 2:15, the woman implores the man, “Catch for us the foxes, the little foxes that ruin the vineyards, our vineyards that are in bloom.” Before love can flourish, it requires adequate time for preparation.
To Prepare You for Building a Family with Another Person
Romantic love is not meant to be limited to the bond between a man and a woman. God intends for that love to extend into the creation of a family. As God instructed Adam and Eve in Genesis 1:28, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it.”
However, becoming someone who is prepared to raise a family takes time. Through seasons of being alone, God is preparing you for the future season in which you will build a family with another person.
Remember, throughout these periods of solitude, God is with you, guiding you, and shaping you into the person He wants you to be. Embrace these seasons and trust in His ultimate plan for your life.
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