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The Sting of Heartbreak
There’s nothing quite like the pain of seeing the man who broke your heart move on with someone else. It doesn’t matter how much time has passed; witnessing him in the place you were supposed to be stalls your progress and brings back the heartbreak all over again. “It was supposed to be me,” you can’t help but think.
Seeking Answers
How does this happen? Why did he choose her and not me? These questions plague our minds, fueling self-doubt and making us believe that we lack whatever “she” has.
The Rare Commitment
We’ve all heard the story of the guy who never committed until he found the “right” woman. We wanted that with him, so why couldn’t it be happening to us? Why weren’t we enough?
The Simplest Answer
The simplest answer is that she’s not you. However, there is more to it than that. Maybe she has her own commitment issues, or perhaps she prefers a very independent kind of relationship. Whatever the reason, the common thread is that she gives him enough space. That’s why it works.
The Illusion of Perfection
But do you really want to live like that? Behind the Facebook pictures of their happy moments lies an emotionally distant relationship. They don’t have to reveal their true selves or go deeper than the surface. It works because they’re on the same page and both get their needs met without compromising their individual lives. This emotionally bereft relationship is perfect for the commitment-phobic man.
The Question of Sustainability
You may wonder why you can’t be like her. You can, but only if it’s genuine. If you can’t truly live like that, it won’t be sustainable. It’s crucial to consider if this is the kind of life you truly desire.
The Need for Space
What makes him commit is having a woman who gives him enough space to be himself and doesn’t pressure him into more. Space is the key.
The Possibility of Commitment
Yes, he can commit if he reaches a point of loneliness and decides to work towards change. He may meet someone who has her own life and doesn’t demand more than he’s comfortable giving.
Is It You?
But is this the life you want? The reason these noncommittal types fall for someone else is because they were never on the same page as us. Deep down, we knew it too. We can’t fool both ourselves and the other person. Eventually, someone will see the mismatch.
Embrace Your Authenticity
You have different needs and desires, and that’s okay. Just because he found what he was looking for doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you. Stop fighting for something that can’t be. When you find someone on your page, this truth will become crystal clear.
Be True to Yourself
Pretending to be content with a life that doesn’t align with your desires won’t bring lasting happiness. Don’t mold yourself to his pace; focus on meeting your own needs outside of the relationship. That’s how change begins. In time, you may have moved on so completely that he becomes nothing more than an old fantasy of what could have been.
Embrace Reality
Come back to reality, embrace your own beautiful life, and find happiness within yourself. Remember, you’re never alone in your heartbreak. Share your story with us in the comments.
